Wedding Wednesday: How to Address Envelopes

Wednesday, July 22, 2015

Happy Wedding Wednesday!
I have a fun topic to share today, how to address envelopes for your formal invitations. Your wedding invitations may be one of the only times you may send formal correspondence, but I personally love to formally address all of my special mail including Christmas, Birthday and Thank You Cards. It just adds a special little touch when you get something that says Mrs. Jennifer Holmes in pretty handwriting.
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To start, let's chat about a few special tips:

-- The outer envelope should be more formal with titles and first names. The interior envelop can be informal leaving off first names (ex. Mr. & Mrs. Holmes), or leaving off titles and last names (ex. Rick and Jennifer). This depends on how close you are with your guests.

-- On the outer envelope, guests' names should be written in full, including social titles (Mr., Ms., Mrs., etc.)

-- The names of married couples are usually written on the same line and the names of unmarried coupons are usually written on two separate lines, with the partner you know best written first. If you know them both equally, write them in alphabetical order.

-- Children under 18 can be included on their parents invitation. The children's names can be included in the interior envelope. If you aren't using an interior envelope, I have been known to include them on the outer envelope or list them as "& family."

-- Not including children's names on the invitation typically implies children are not invited. However, some guests may assume they can bring their children. So if you are concerned with this, you can have your immediate family and/or bridal party reach out to guests to confirm this.
-- When inviting a single person, not including "& guest" implies they are not able to bring a guest. Again, if you are concerned about this, have your immediate family or someone from the bridal party confirm.
-- It's traditional to spell out the words in the address, as opposed to using abbreviations.
Here are a few examples for addressing invitations:
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{ Married Couple }
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{ Married Couple with Different Last Names }

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{ Unmarried Couple Living Together }
-- There are many other examples, including an interactive tool that will generate how to address envelopes for almost any situation over on the Wedding Paper Diva's site. 

-- The return address traditionally goes on the back flap. In some cases it is written out, or you can find some fun address labels or a stamp like we did for our invitations.
-- Take a completed wedding invitation to the Post Office with you to purchase your stamps. Have the postal worker weigh your invitation to calculate how much postage your wedding invitation will need. Our invitation wasn't too heavy, but because there was a ribbon holding the pieces together it was too thick to go through automation, so I had to pay for extra postage.

Does anyone have any other tips they learned when addressing your wedding invitations?

Linking up with Wedding Wednesday.

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  1. Good tips! I bought a military etiquette book, to make sure I didn't screw up the invites! I also put adult only reception on my invites, otherwise I would have had about 55 kids at my wedding. I love kids, but I wanted it to be an adult night out.

  2. Great tips!! Thanks for sharing!

  3. Great tips and I love the examples lol!

  4. These are such great tips! We did outer and inner envelopes for our wedding, and it looked so nice and formal but also helped people know exactly who we were inviting. I've heard so many crazy stories about people showing up who weren't invited, so it definitely helped with that :)


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